The dating game insane
Barris made game show history right off the bat, in 1966, with , hosted by Jim Lange.
The gimmick: a young female questions three males, hidden from her view, to determine which would be the best date.
Games are an ego default when being "real" feels too scary. Being open and honest is a gift that's born of inner confidence and self-worth. Once you recognize this pattern, you've already gained your freedom from the automatic response instigated by your partner's game. Authentic communication reveals your partner's fears, allowing their concerns to be voiced and worked out while maintaining connection. This is a partner who's in the game for an ego boost and doesn't possess the skill set required for a relationship with you. Your time's better spent with someone who is capable of honesty, intimacy, and consistent behavior. Do they want to explore the possibility of a relationship with you?
Handling the Hot/Cold partner: The best way to handle a hot/cold tug of war is to proceed to honest questioning. If so, then you may have stumbled upon a highly sensitive and fearful individual. These are easy questions to ask when you know what you want and what you deserve. For those who are straightforward, there's little interest in anyone who plays games.
Contact is reciprocal, time is made to see each other, and forward movement is evident. The hot phase is designed to get you in the gate that leads to the corral, where you'll later be harnessed. Your partner begins to pull away making you long for their previous attention.
Whether initiated by a cold-shoulder, avoidance, or lack of communication... This phase activates loss, making you yearn for them and wait with bated breath for their call or text. These are the basic dance steps to this type of behavior. This formula is predictable and consistent even when your partner's reactions are not.
But knowing of their existence and recognizing their predictable patterns will allow your dating to be a rewarding, rather than confusing, experience.
What was once readily available is suddenly gone, and no matter how hard we try to regain our partner's former affection, it now seems beyond our reach. They don't need more time to figure out their emotions. The phases of Hot and Cold: The "hot" phase begins with a bang of overwhelming recognition. Bathed in newfound attention, flattery and flirtation spark a strong attraction for this person.A hot and cold player reverts to cold as the norm, with bursts of hot that don't result in forward movement.