Sexy senior chatters
That’s especially true for women and their partners, given the extra pressure and judgement attached to youth and attractiveness for women.But really, we’re all affected by the idea that younger is better.And someday, we may get to be like the people in this photograph. I also know that many people will look at it and feel disgust, shame, or squicked.So what are you going to do when you get to be that age?
There’s a huge difference between “that’s gross” and “I feel discomfort.” The more we can change how we think and feel about elders and sexuality, the better off we’ll be if and when we get there. Even if you’re not there yet, there’s a good chance that you will be and many of the sexual concerns that can arise are much easier to deal with when you aren’t surprised by them. I’ve spoken with quite a few people who are convinced that nobody will want to have sex with them because they have grey hair, or wrinkles, or scars, or stretch marks, or health concerns, or any of the other effects of age.I feel sadness that they’re so sure that they’re unattractive to others because they’re unattractive to themselves.What a waste of the incredible beauty and wisdom that surrounds us, if only we could see it.
If we are fortunate, we will have lots more time together.Personally, I’ve found that became easier when I stopped watching TV and reading the drivel that passes for news (and don’t even get me started on popular magazines). Every time you compliment someone’s appearance by telling them that they look young, you’re reinforcing the idea that we lose value as we age.