Separated and dating my husband
What do you think she and your husband talk about in that garage over multiple bottles of wine until the wee hours of the morning? Furthermore, why is it that you’ve only talked to Ramona a handful of times but your husband seems to be super chummy with her?Why is he hanging out with her at night instead of you?“Hey, could you please wear pants and stop bending over in front of my husband? She’ll be offended, and hopefully embarrassed (if she has any shame at all), but it’s not like you were going to be her best friend anyway. She can’t very well say, “No, it doesn’t make you feel uncomfortable!” Just frame your discussion around your feelings, which you have ownership of, rather than her intentions, which you don’t have ownership of, and then there’s nothing to argue. He brushes off your concerns as if they don’t matter.Ramona handed my husband a glass of wine and then proceeded to give him a hug and a kiss on the cheek.I was caught off-guard and walked back to our yard and happened to glance over and I saw her kiss him again through the slats in the fence.Is there any way that I can tactfully approach this neighbor about her behavior that is really stepping over the line and really upsets me? Yeah, why not bake some cookies, bring them over to her house and say, “Listen, we don’t know each other that well and I’m sure you’re just trying to be friendly, but it makes me uncomfortable when you hug and kiss my husband.— Suspicious Neighbor You know, there probably ISN’T a tactful way to approach a neighbor about hitting on your husband. I mean, WHAT could you possibly say that wouldn’t offend her? Those are gestures we usually reserve for family and old friends.” What can she say to that?
She bends over a lot to, I assume, show off her cleavage/ and or behind since they are typically pointed in his direction.
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Something’s up with him and my guess is that whatever might be going on between him and Ramona probably starts with whatever is up between the two of you. If they aren’t getting that from their partners, then someone who is offering it up for free all the time is going to be appealing to them.
Maybe he feels like he isn’t getting enough attention from you. I’m not saying your husband is cheating on you or that he’s even interested in Ramona.But here’s the thing: she’s not the biggest problem. He’s more interested in appeasing this neighbor women he’s just met than putting you at ease.