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I wish that you would _____.” My daughter and I both learned this tool when she was in Girls on the Run in 5th grade, and I was one of the coaches. I think it’s better than the two-step formula because it lets you say what you want: something different from what you have got up to that point.
I was once that person who minimized my spouse’s feelings, which sounded to me like complaints about everything.
You can also use the therapeutic tactic, “When you _____, I feel _____.” As in, “When you tell me I’m not cold, I feel invalidated.” If your husband is merely unhelpful, these might work.
If instead he genuinely sees his opinion as the only valid one, then no mere phrasing will unlock his inner empath.
Step 3: We grow up and decide we want more in life than the constant pain of squashing our unconscious emotions. This inner defender is just as adept at keeping their pain locked below the surface of their conscious mind.
We find tremendous courage and begin to get in touch with our inner child and our inner defender. This is one of those moments where the universe has lovingly set us up. It takes every ounce of self restraint to keep from gouging the other person’s eyes out. So when you begin telling them how you are facing your own pain, their inner defender is immediately alarmed at such a prospect.
However, the invalidation may come in seemingly harmless statements from otherwise well-meaning people.
Then move on with your journey knowing that your inner child will never have to feel that way again. And nobody’s projections will stop your healing journey. You have completed the process of overcoming invalidation in your recovery. Often, if we are experiencing a communication breakdown, or if there is a wall between us and someone else, it most likely has been built with the bricks of invalidation. Mastering it will greatly elevate your emotional intelligence and your of validation to feel good about themselves.