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(Emily Blunt and John Krasinski are an exception.) After interrogating men and women from both sides of the Atlantic, as well as consulting an expert, a few theories emerged.
Related: Jennifer, 29, an American married to a Londoner, thinks a lot of the initial attraction to Englishmen boils down to the persuasive power of romantic comedies starring Hugh Grant and the irresistible, charming English human weapon known as Jude Law."It's definitely those English romances that make British guys seem so attractive, funny, witty, and proper," she said.
How does a girl from Texas end up with a tendency to go after English guys? Three years and four English boyfriends later, I was left wondering the same thing.
In my defense, I'd say Gwyneth Paltrow, who recently announced her separation from Chris Martin—who, in turn, blamed the breakup on his own lack of enthusiasm for life—would probably understand the initial attraction.
The American men I've dated were (coincidentally) all from DC.
And overall, I found them swaggering, careerist, and utterly terrified of commitment.
Native Londoner Christina, 35, just moved back to England after spending the last eight years living in New York. "If I was joking, they tended to take offense or find me peculiar," Christina said. The truth is that after two years, I stopped noticing his accent, which was fine, because, ultimately (and perhaps for the first time), I fell in love with the man, not "the Englishman." I still do love the way he says "cheeky," though. She and her friend Rachel wrote an epistolary memoir about their post-college years living in Beijing and Paris (and dating Englishmen).
But I cannot tell you how often I hear the same from British women.
"I remember being 19 in England with a pack of guys just awkwardly standing together drinking beer and waiting for something to happen," Elman said.
The directness with which some American women approach relationships can be refreshing, as well as ego-boosting: "American women will probably pay men a lot more attention than English women, so for English guys, it's great.
Everyone seems to celebrate Independence Day, these days.
On the back of every pub toilet door (and believe me, I spend a lot of time in pub toilets) there seems to be a flyer for their 4th of July piss-up.
It's certainly true for me and other American women who live by Jane Austen's canon and never miss an episode of Downton Abbey: We're primed to put English men on a pedestal.