Dating in non exclusive relationship short guys and online dating
I agree with Evan’s advice to have the boyfriend/sexclusivity conversation before sex.The only place I would differ is on the specific advice to the OP.Now, this guy is such a front-runner that she drops every other prospect like a hot potato.
So here’s the deal: if you like having sex based on mutual attraction, can easily separate sex from emotion, and have no real attachment to whether he calls you again, then, by all means, ignore this advice. She’s now had sex with a guy who is NOT her boyfriend, and she still has no idea whether he’s seeing anyone else, whether he has any feelings towards her, or whether he’s going to call her the next day. In the meantime, I can think of some other fun things to do…” And then you can proceed to explore each others’ bodies to the limits of whatever boundaries you decide to set. It should be pretty hard for him to argue with that. Take 4-6 weeks to assess whether he’s boyfriend-worthy A man isn’t boyfriend-worthy because he’s cute and smart and funny.
Our chemistry was immediate (physical, intellectual, and emotional) and things have been very easy so far. I am totally comfortable with the speed (how often we are communicating, seeing each other, and sharing information about ourselves).
But, we recently slept together (it felt right and was great).
Just because you had a great date, just because you had electric chemistry, just because you were at his place until 3am does NOT mean he wants you as his girlfriend and does NOT mean you are long-term compatible. You do not commit to someone who has given no indication he’s committing to you.
It just means you have a serious crush with potential. That guy still needs to follow up regularly in order to prove himself worthy. Now if he’s been calling you every night, and seeing you 3 times a week for the past few weeks, then yes, you can take down your profile and focus your energies on exploring this burgeoning relationship.But, we are technically not exclusive (meaning, we talked prior to sleeping together and said that we were both able to date others, if we wanted).