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How can God redeem and save my life if he’s not even able to help me maintain a healthy weight?Somehow, my body is sizable enough to undermine the power of the Gospel.Part of this has to do with basic demographics of the church today: For men, it’s a buyer’s market.With the surplus of godly, talented, accomplished Christian women, men can afford to be pickier, holding tightly to standards of physical attraction, sense of humor, similar interests, all the way to taste in coffee. Here’s why we chose to give birth to black triplets.] And if you are overweight, you can’t remain that way.
Gluttony, however, only seems to be a problem when it results in displeasing physical appearances. But being overweight can be caused by a whole host of things (plummeting metabolisms, hormone imbalance, thyroid problems, bad genes or even socioeconomic considerations).
I once had a close friend confide in me that a boy I liked told her he could never date me, despite being “attracted to my personality,” because of my weight, because he was embarrassed by me.
It was my worst nightmare come true — that my personality does not offer enough redemption for my looks.
People assume I should be actively working toward finding a husband, an exhausting process that leaves me feeling rejected and judged as a result of my weight, or I should be working to lose weight in order to make myself a more appealing option.
I’ve had Christians justify this pressure by dismissing unrealistic beauty standards with a simple, “Well, men are visual creatures after all.” While I cannot speak for all women, I can say that being overweight has diminished (and most often completely erased) any interest from men.Only with those who consume three slices of pizza at Bible study and weigh significantly more than a chart demands can we assume gluttony is the secret sin. And yet these factors are rarely considered when a well-meaning friend sends me a link to the latest fad diet or a man avoids my eye as he announces to the waitress that no, we won’t be dessert.